As you can see by the picture for this post, looking sexy for a photo isn’t my strongest asset.

Perhaps it’s because I don’t have a lot of experience in front of a camera looking sexy. No porn star skills here. I wouldn’t even know how to tap into Jenna Jameson’s energy. Though I get the appeal… it’s just not realistic. No one wants to compete (imagined or real) with that level of professional sexiness. And I think most wives would agree.

Also, your wife doesn’t want you to be Ron Jeremy. She wants a real man, not an actor. Unless of course, you are role-playing. From what I have seen porn sex is a lot different from real life sex. And that’s a good thing.

Let’s Talk About How You’re Not a Porn Star… Nor is Your Wife… And That’s Okay

Okay, Guys. I know porn is really fun and exciting to watch. And though most of you like to pretend you don’t watch it. Often times you give yourself away as soon as you hit the bedroom. Stop trying to act like a porn star. We want you. The real deal. Not an act. Again, reenacting your favorite porno scene doesn’t need to happen unless your partner is on board.

During the first year that I was with Keoni, I remember hanging out in the bathroom. I was getting ready for the day and Keoni was keeping me company. At one point he says “show me your titties!!” Um, what?! No thanks. MAJOR TURN OFF. (We laugh a lot over this moment now.)

I decided to do a poll in order to check myself (at that time I needed confirmation that I wasn’t a weirdo, now I would just own my feelings). I asked many of the women I knew if they would have responded in a positive way to “show me your titties.” Even my most sexually open friends and women in my life said, no.

Keoni seemed shocked that this was a turn-off and that others agreed. So if Keoni made this mistake, I can imagine many other guys make a similar one.