Being kind was so important to me. I confused kindness with being a doormat.

When I was growing up, “people pleaser” was my middle name. It was bad. I stayed in friendships and relationships way too long. I didn’t enjoy being an emotional punching bag, it just felt safe.

I didn’t trust my own feelings and never wanted anyone to be mad at me.

It stopped working for me. I was feeling terrible about myself and the way I was allowing myself to be treated. So I decided I would apply the skills I was learning.

Set some boundaries and change my life. One of the best things I’ve ever done for myself. Not only do I stick up for myself, but I also stick up for the people I love, and even people I don’t know. It’s pretty awesome.

Enjoy this little video I made about my journey.

How have you worked to be more assertive?

You can also keep your value of kindness and be assertive. Teach people how to treat you.

Will they love it? No. Do it anyway.

Sending so much love your way, Steph