Women come across really confusing at times.
Men often wonder, what do women actually want? They say one thing one day and something else the next. I thought I would help give some pointers because I want your relationship to be as happy as it can be
Let’s talk about 3 things women want.
Be Thoughtful.
That’s right. Being thoughtful can mean at least two different things. One, let her know you are thinking about her. Send a fun and flirty or sweet text throughout the day. Surprise her with a little gift on a random day. Note – not all women want flowers. Though it is sweet on occasion, show her she is worth the effort by picking up something unique to her that she really enjoys. This could be a movie, sweet treat, or favorite place to eat. Tap into the knowledge you have about your gal and use it to your advantage.
Second, take the initiative with being helpful in daily life situations. Sure she can ask for help, however, it is enticing when your man offers to help before you say anything.
Now, this isn’t saying she is off the hook for asking for help when she wants it. This is to say, find opportunities to offer to help out with something or just do it without being asked. Such as a chore or errand. Perhaps if you have a little one, you can offer to take them so she can do something for herself, even if it is to take a nap.
It can even be something that you send her to do for herself, such as a massage or to get her hair or nails done. It could even be something fun she can do with a friend.
Invest your money, time and energy into her and yourself.
Yes, a woman wants a man that is financially responsible. This doesn’t mean you can’t have fun with your money or that she is a gold digger. Most women don’t care how much you make, as long as it is enough to pay your bills and treat yourselves to dates here and there.
She wants to know that you think she is worth spending your time, money and energy on. So make sure that you are spending quality time with her and when you are with her your attitude is pleasant. Also, treat you and her to a nice or fun date every once in a while. Buy her a little gift or take yourselves on a vacation to have some fun.
It’s great to spend your time, money, and energy on yourself as well. Just don’t be the guy you will only spend money on your girl on things that you like and you invite her along. Or you buy yourself the top of the line something and her the budget-friendly model. That stuff is not cool and is going to put rifts in your relationship because she will know that you value her different than you value yourself based on your actions and spending habits.
Have a strong friendship.
She wants you to be her best friend. This does not mean go in the friend zone, it means to be her friend. Laugh together, be interested in her life, text her during the day, have fun, talk to each other about life, enjoy new experiences together.
Find moments to touch her in non-sexual ways. Touch is so important and we can forget that touch can also be non-sexual and incredibly meaningful. Hugs, holding hands, touching hands, touching the small of her back, legs, all that good stuff still adds to physical connection and passion.
Remember, when we are in a relationship unless, in a poly type relationship, we are only getting to enjoy these different types of sexual and non-sexual intimate touch with our partner. Don’t make it one dimensional where it is only penis and vagina touch. Make all kinds of touch thrive in your relationship.
And, I want to end with a reminder to be your best self in the relationship, not just the dating phase.
When we are dating, most of us are focused on being the best version of ourself mind, body, and soul. And then we get into a relationship and let ourselves go mind, body, and soul. Regardless of the reason for this, let me take this moment to remind you to continue to engage in the activities that maintain your sexy and feeling great.
Once in a relationship, stressors can seem even more stressful. So really take the time to invest in yourself and maintaining your best self – whoever that is as you grow on a personal and couple level.
If you would like more relationship tips, check out my easy to read ebook, Beautifully Changed.