Mother’s Day is coming up fast my friends. This is a day to celebrate the mom(s) in your life. Yet, this can be a day that brings with it many emotions that include joy, confusion and sadness. This can be for several reasons. Let’s talk about those reasons and what you can do to still enjoy Mother’s Day.
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Your mom/child has passed
– this is an especially tough time for those who were close with their mom or child. This is still a time that you can celebrate your loved one and the time you had with them. Do one of their favorite things, share your favorite memories with someone you trust, and/or wear their favorite color. You can even do an adventure in their honor. Remember them as you do all the time, with a smile and gratitude.
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You don’t have a good relationship with your mom
– for whatever reason, sometimes there is a struggle in a parent/child relationship and it is never quite what one would hope. This can be hard to even want to celebrate Mother’s Day… especially if the focus is on all that your mother lacked. How could you possibly even buy her one of those mushy cards that describe a movie mom? Well.. you can’t… even more so if you are focused on the flaws of your mama. Instead, shift your heart to the things that you embraced and possibly made your own. The thing you appreciated. How she helped shaped you to become who you are, even if it means doing the opposite of what she did. If you really need to be mad on Mother’s Day… be mad… but do something productive with that energy. Even if it is writing a goodbye letter to your fantasy mom and letting it go with a balloon or other ceremonial type of release. And then find time to enjoy for a few moments, the anger will be waiting.
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You have the best mom in the world
– well this one seems pretty easy peasy. Maybe it is, maybe it isn’t. This year, take some time to share specifics about what you love and appreciate about your mom. Go beyond the “Best Mom Ever” mug… and share with her the moments that have touched your life the most. Speak gentle to her. Wrap your interactions in kindness. Do something playful or check something off her bucket list.
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You are not a mom… yet… and you desperately want to be
– take a moment to feel all the sadness that is sitting on your heart. And then breathe it out. Release it… just for a bit. You can always pick it back up later if you need. Spend the day looking for and counting all the ways you can appreciate your life or the moment passing by. Celebrate one of the mama’s in your life you admire. Also, celebrate yourself and the ways you love those in your life. You are making a positive difference in someone’s life even if you don’t realize it.
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You gave a baby up for adoption
– this could be a very heavy day or an incredibly joyous one. Take the time to bask in the memories that you do have and the joy in the gift you gave. Celebrate the bananas out of giving someone the gift of motherhood. It is unthinkable love you gave a family, a mama. That is some pretty intense love that you would do that for your child.
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You are a mom doing your best to love and provide for your little(s)
– you are incredible… and if there is an area you think you can do better in… like truly you could benefit… take the time to learn and apply it. Otherwise, release the idea of perfection. Your kid(s) love you and want your love and time. Instead of counting the ways you could do better, zoom in on something you rock at as a mom. What are you doing well? Own that on Mother’s Day. Give yourself a round of applause and celebrate the life and love you have. Enjoy the day… release the stress. Let out your childlike wonderment and play the day away… regardless of how old you or your kids are. Play is key this Mother’s Day.
This Mother’s Day make it about the good stuff and not about what you wish. Find a way to celebrate what you love and admire about your mom, even if only one thing comes to mind. Celebrate yourself as well. Life is long and short at the same time. And time is a gift. Don’t waste it on anger.
Hoping you all have an incredible love and fun-filled Mother’s Day. You are worth the love, hugs and all the joy in the world.
Please share in the comments a way that you celebrate Mother’s Day.
