Hi Cuties! We often hear that passion fades in every relationship. There is nothing you can do about it. Just like we can’t do anything about how gravity affects our body as we age. Um.. no… I don’t think so.
Perhaps a certain percentage will decrease due to familiarity or just being together for so long. However, our relationships can still have passion regardless of how long we have been looking into the same eyes!
Here are some of my suggestions to keep the passion alive.
Make A Date Jar
We need to be making time for a weekly date with our love faces. A couple of hours will do. Though, sometimes it can be tough to think of something to do on a date.
This is when a date jar comes in super handy. Get a jar, decorate it to your liking, and get little pieces of paper. Then you each get some of the slips of paper and write out your date ideas on the slips. Add them to the jar. Pick a day of the week that you guys will have your dates. On that day, pick out a slip and see what the date has in store.
Remember… even if it is a date that you are not super excited about, be a good sport about it so that your partner will do the same for you.
If you don’t want to make a jar. Alternate picking what to do on the dates. And have fun! Laugh and play together (serious talks can be on non-date time). And remember to be engaged in the conversation. Ask follow-up questions and be interested in what is being shared.
Be On Your Best Behavior
Remember way back when we first met our loves? Do you remember how sweet and charming we were to each other? Oh, man. It was so nice… nice enough to set the butterflies off in our bellies.
The effort that was put into getting ready to see each other and planning what will be done. And then the comfort zone arrives and out goes all that effort and kindness that we made sure was present.
I mean really, think about how we can treat our partner on a day-to-day basis. Not even the worst behavior or things said…. just the annoyed, impatient attitude.. do we really think our partner would have stayed around if we treated them like a pain in the butt? Just going to say… I don’t think so.
So why do we think after years together we can stop being on our best behavior? Sure we can have bad moments. We still need to repair those bad moments and mend what we hurt. And then spend the rest of the time treating our love as if we loved them.
Do Sweet Things
What a lovely and easy way to add in more romance. Do sweet things. Little sweet things on a day-to-day basis adds a nice touch to the day. And every once in a while do a big sweet thing.
These things can be whatever speaks to your love. Surprise them with events that they would love, write them little love notes and hide them around the house, get them an unexpected treat from time to time, make them their favorite meal, and the list goes on.
If we get stuck and aren’t sure what our partner would like, this is a great signal that we need to spend some more time getting to know our partner to discover what they would find sweet. Heck, you can even come out and ask them what they find sweet or romantic and then listen to what is shared and act on those gimme’s.
What other things do you do to keep the passion alive? Please share in the comments 🙂 And remember to sign up to possibly win a coaching session with yours truly 🙂